Frank Ocean on Coming Out: A ‘Boulder on My Chest’ Has Been Lifted

Frank Ocean

Frank Ocean is speaking out for the first time since coming out. The Odd Future star explains why he decided to publicly address his sexuality.

Ocean penned a letter earlier this month in which he revealed that his first love was a man. “[It was] about my own sanity and my ability to feel like I’m living a life where … I’m happy when I wake up in the morning, and not with this freakin’ boulder on my chest,” he told the Guardian Guide for a story in Saturday’s edition.

He made a conscious decision to go public with it right before his album was released. “I knew that I was writing in a way that people would ask questions,” he said. “I knew that my star was rising, and I knew that if I waited I would always have somebody that I respected be able to encourage me to wait longer, to not say it till who knows when.”

The 24-year old “Pyramids” singer, whose album channel ORANGE debuted at No. 2 in the U.S., longed for a role model of his own. “I wished at 13 there was somebody I looked up to who would have said something like that, who would have been transparent in that way,” he said.

Although most of his peers have been supportive, Ocean is not worried about what may come from his revelation. “People are just afraid of things too much,” he said. “Sure, evil exists, extremism exists. Somebody could commit a hate crime and hurt me. But they could do the same just because I’m black. They could do the same just because I’m American.”

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57 Comments

  1. TeamQueenB

    I LOVE HIM

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  2. Power3

    Kudos to Frank Ocean.

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  3. im

    he is still milking this i see.

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    Queen Kimmy Blanco Reply:

    @im, You can see this one is just thirsty to suck Frank Ocean’s dick…

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    im Reply:

    @Queen Kimmy Blanco,LIL KIM IS DEAD.

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    Fa Reply:

    @im, Lil Kim is well alive and I am sure she would fuck you any time from behind! Sit down, hoe!

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    kwayzee Reply:

    @Fa, nope the bitch dead

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  4. misty

    i wonder how the women he was with feel, bcuz it must be scary hard for them now, hope they used protection

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    Lisa Reply:

    @misty, that is so disrespectful. Just because a man has sex with a man, does not automatically mean he is not using protection or making sure that they get checked out beforehand. Wow, really?

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    JussSaying Reply:

    @misty,
    Newsflash.. STD’s affect everyone.
    They should still check themselves out either way.
    Thats whats wrong with you straight people. You think “Oh Im not gay so I dont need to get tested”
    Idiots.

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    Morgan Reply:

    @misty, You are a fucking idiot.

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    Queen Kimmy Blanco Reply:

    @misty, this is an ignorant ass bitch, please choke on 2 big donkey dicks you stupid bitch.

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    misty Reply:

    i’m just saying how i feel, i mean he is bi, and just came out so that means he did sleep with women that did not know or agree with the lifestyle, i hope he used protection with men…no wonder there’s so much diseases in our community. gays should all come out asap

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    Tbozfan10 Reply:

    @misty, You’re so dumb and clearly fool of hate stupid bigot. How do you know he was with women who “didn’t know” he was bi? Because he’s been with a relationship with a man before you think he has an STD. I’m do sick of you little bigots on every post scapegoating different groups of people for everything wrong in the world.

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    misty Reply:

    i’m sure u’re all wishing to meet him at his hotel after a concert and get ur 15min of fame…it ain’t happening

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    Lisa Reply:

    @misty, you also think that having sex with a bi-sexual man means an instant STI. It doesn’t matter what you think…

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  5. NCNC

    I know the feeling…

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  6. meme

    he seems very intelligent

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  7. Lisa

    He is being really clear about the situation and I think he made the best choice. I hope people will eventually just let it go and just don’t give it a second thought…

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  8. Shelby

    he never even mentioned anything about having sex with a man, he said he fell in love with a man. what an ignorant thing to say. just be happy that he’s happy, jesus what is wrong with people these days.

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    BigThings4Life Reply:

    @Shelby,(︶︿︶) Jesus has nothing to do with this FUCKERY!

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  9. Rachel

    Okay. We know his first love was a man. But I’m still in the dark because he’s so damn ambiguous .. is he homosexual or bisexual?

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    SMH at your life Reply:

    @Rachel, why does it matter to you?

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    Rachel Reply:

    @SMH at your life, Well, if you read and comprehended my statement … because it’s so AMBIGUOUS. Damn.

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  10. Redchainsaw

    He still hasn’t said that he’s “gay/bi” he’s just saying that his 1st love was a man, I mean that isn’t really vague but he isn’t really being clear, I think by him just saying it was his 1st love, he’s leaving room to retract and say he’s over come it in some way if form.

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    DenimJunkieKidd Reply:

    @Redchainsaw, I could agree with your view if he had one sexual encounter with a man and that was it, but he had an emotional connection, deep feelings, and if the opportunity presented itself would have been in a relationship…..that’s the difference between an experiment and being bisexual….but we are all have our own views

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    Redchainsaw Reply:

    @DenimJunkieKidd, What you’re saying is true, but I don’t know, for me I need a little more confirmation,not that the label has a lot of emphasis, but I would prefer if he made clearly formally say if he’s gay/bi

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    SHAWTY Reply:

    @Redchainsaw, Why does he have to LABEL himself? He admits to falling in love with a man…WHAT OTHER PROOF DO YOU NEED? I swear the world we live in…He loves men, it’s pretty clear…that he’s G

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  11. real

    hell awaits for such, why do u deliberetly ignore the word of god and follow your flesh, the devil is a liar, and u believed him..be the man god made u to be.

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    DenimJunkieKidd Reply:

    @real, he without sin cast the first stone…..i’ll wait

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    Heather Reply:

    @real, It ALSO awaits those who deliberately obey the Bible’s words –> “JUDGE NOT LEST YE BE JUDGED.”

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    Tbozfan10 Reply:

    @real, Don’t talk about things you clearly Dont understand. People are attracted to who they are attracted to. It isn’t a conscious choice. And just because someone told you something was true doesn’t mean it is. Your nuts if you can believe in a god who would burn someone in a fiery pit for eternity and then in the next breath say “he’s such a loving god.” and god gave you a brain so you can think logically with it. Do you even know WHO wrote the books in the bible and the horrible things many of these men did?

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  12. pfffffff

    @ real it s so easy to say…

    If you only knew

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  13. DRB

    He doesn’t need to clarify what he is. He said what he had to say in order to explain his lyrics.

    Moving on, if you’re sexually active, even in a monogamous relationship, you should still get checked. Regardless of orientation.

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  14. real

    @denimjunkiekid, homosexuality is a diffent kind of sin god calls it an abomonation, do u know what does that mean? It goes against nature god created, whoever shall not repent of homosexuality will unfortunetly go to hell, remember sodom and gomora????

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    Fa Reply:

    @real, Yes, there is a Bible verse that calls homosexuality an “abomination.” But there are more verses that call eating shellfish and other prohibited foods “abominations.” So why do Christians feel free to scarf down shrimp, crab, lobster and bacon, if the Bible clearly says that eating such things greatly offends the God they claim to love and adore? The answer is simple: most Christians no longer believe that eating non-kosher food offends God, even though the Bible clearly says otherwise. Christians are necessarily very selective readers and believers of the Bible, or they would have to murder their own children over misdemeanors. They very wisely ignore all sorts of biblical commands and injunctions that they find senseless or inconvenient. But then why do so many of them deny homosexuals the right to ignore injunctions they find senseless?

    Christians who single out homosexuality as a “special case” are hypocrites. In other matters, they decided long ago that if an action doesn’t harm anyone it isn’t a “sin” even if the Bible clearly says otherwise. So Christians feel free to eat shellfish, to work on the Sabbath, and to wear unisex clothing like sweats and jeans, because such things don’t harm other people. And of course most Christians feel free to have sex as they please because consensual sex between adults is not a crime or a sin commensurate with rape or murder. How many heterosexual Christians remain virgins until they marry, and never have sex with anyone other than their first spouse? Obviously, very few. Christians who have multiple sexual partners seem to be convinced that God understands and forgives them by “grace,” which would be very nice (assuming having sex is actually a “sin”) if only they didn’t poison grace by insisting it can’t be shown to homosexuals, who also aren’t hurting anyone when they have consensual sex.

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    Beyoncé:I Am Your Leader Reply:

    @real, Well I guess all the animals are going to hell also since they practice homosexual sex too. And let’s not act like homosexuality is the only end all be all sin. Clearly you must not of heard of the “7 Deadly Sins”.

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    DenimJunkieKidd Reply:

    @real, the bible also says death to any woman who is not a virgin on her wedding night. So lets not go throwing around the bible to try to support your prejudice because it does come back around. Read and take in Fa’s comment….

    @Fa I couldn’t agree more !

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  15. real

    @ heather please define the word “judge” for me!! people r so predictable..u try to correct them u tel them about scripture, about what the bible says and they say ur judging!!! do they actually know the meaning of judging?? lol… the devil is sa liar…

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    Lisa Reply:

    @real, has it ever come across your mind that just because you have certain beliefs it doesn’t mean that others share those? For an Atheist, the word of God doesn’t mean anything. You can shove you believe down other people’s throats, but a gay man is not hurting anybody’s quality of life, whereas people like you very much hurt the quality of life for a huge group of people.

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  16. Dave

    Kudos to him. I think the whole thing did benefit him, but I don’t think he solely did this for sales. I mean the songs were already on his album. It’s not like he recorded songs weeks before his album was gonna be released like “let me put some gay stuff in here, so I can be rumored about this & address it for publicity.” I believe it came from a true place. If you love whomever & you’re open with it in your life, why would you hide it? Just talking about everyday people. So why would he hide it? So I feel like he was one to be open & not lie, so he just put it out there. But yes I do think it benefited him a lot. But he still has talent to back it up, just a strong platform to display it on now.

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  17. CAN REAL RnB PLEASE STAND UP

    i wonder how people gonna re act when miguel comes out the closet lol

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    Cranberry Reply:

    @CAN REAL RnB PLEASE STAND UP, *tumble weed*

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  18. SHAWTY

    Why does he have to LABEL himself? He admits to falling in love with a man…WHAT OTHER PROOF DO Y’ALL NEED? I’m sick of people asking “SO IS HE GAY OR BI?” Why in the F*CK would that matter. He said he loves men..and if you listen to “Novacane” clearly WOMEN don’t sexual excite him. SHEEESSHHHHH

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    Maxwell Reply:

    @SHAWTY, Why does it matter to you what people think or what people ask? How is this negatively affecting your life? You mad, though? If people want to know, people want to know. End of story. Damn, who are you his mother?

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    Nathan Reply:

    @SHAWTY, You sound HELLA mad. Very angsty. You’ll be the next one to come out. BREATHE. Damn lol.

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    Yasmine Reply:

    @SHAWTY, You are a fucking hypocrite. You know damn well this beating around the bush is sketchy is hell. And that’s the most retarded explanation for Novacane…EVER.

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    SHAWTY Reply:

    @Yasmine, How am I a hypocrite idiot? And Novacane was a great explanation. “Viagra pill poppin” “muted emotion, zero emotion”..what other proof do you need? He even admitted this during an interview once….he doesn’t like woman he likes men…But my question for YOU is why does it matter if he is GAY or BI??? You have no chance with him either way. TAKE A SEAT _/

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  19. TheDreamer

    Him coming out may have helped him with sales slightly, but it’s the music that matters anyway. I don’t care if he’s gay, bi or straight…he makes great music for everyone to enjoy.

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    Anybody hate NickiMinja that my lover Reply:

    @TheDreamer, Ture That.

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  20. The cool

    IDGAF

    I’m a black straight male and I think Frank Ocean is amazing. His music speaks so much meaning and soul that if you were really a die hard music fan there is no reason except homophobia that u would hate this man of his decision. Channel Orange is the R & B album of the year. I’m not gonna act like it didn’t catch me off guard that he came out. And that I can’t sing ” Forrest Gump” but as an artist if u don’t respect him ur just a hater on all levels.

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  21. Ewan

    You people are ignorant. Just because someone asks if he’s gay and bi doesn’t mean they’re casting aspersions on Frank. Is it such a crime to WONDER? My God.

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  22. mal

    I thought this man was amazing before. Now i think hes so inspirational. THERES MANY MALE ARTISTS who are attracted to the same sex but will never come out. Frank Ocean is so brave. LOVE HIM

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  23. Anybody hate NickiMinja that my lover

    all it matter is that Frank Ocean make Good Music And Keep doing Him, and to the people that Don’t Like he Cause of waht he say Then Keep it Moving & Don’t worry about him

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  24. Orville

    I think the public has a right to wonder if Frank is gay or bisexual. I know people want to be politically correct BUT we do label people and put them into categories. I believe Frank Ocean is very courageous BUT I also think he is being ambigious about his sexuality for marketing reasons. Think about it, Frank can now appeal to the gay and straight audiences his marketing demographics is wider. He can appeal to straight women and gay men. But I think EVENTUALLY Frank will have to be more clear about his sexual orientation.

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  25. B-Nasty

    Hold up

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  26. BKBelle

    @misty: You’re assuming that he just came out to EVERYONE recently. He came out to the PUBLIC recently. His close friends and family knew before we did. So who’s to say that he didn’t tell any of the women he was with?

    And how do you know that he was with other men? He said that he was in love with one, who didn’t even have the same feelings. You’re really reaching here. And failing. Try again.

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