10 Things We Learned From Beyoncé’s HBO Documentary

Beyoncé: Life Is But a Dream

Beyoncé showed us why she’s a pop culture icon and renowned performer during her HBO documentary Beyoncé: Life Is But a Dream, which aired last night. But the 31-year-old megastar also displayed a more compassionate, relatable side.

During the 90-minute film, which she executive produced, the singer/actress/businesswoman/mother let down her guard and enlightened us with her words of wisdom, even sharing her most private moments with her husband Jay-Z and 13-month-old daughter Blue Ivy, who made several appearances.

From her miscarriage to the reason she fired her father Mathew Knowles as her manager, here are 10 things we learned about Queen Bey.

1. Firing her father wasn’t easy, but she had to do it.
“I needed boundaries and I think my dad needed boundaries. I needed a break. I needed my dad,” she said, while admitting, “It was hard. I had to sacrifice my relationship with my dad. It was a stressful, sad, difficult time, but I had to let go.”

2. She confides in her computer.
She uses the camera as her diary, recording her most intimate thoughts. “Thank God for my computer. Sometimes when there’s no one to talk to, I talk out loud so I can get all of my thoughts out and try to figure out the issues that I’m having and I’m trying to find the answers.”

3. Her 2011 Billboard Music Awards performance had to be epic.
She was pregnant at the time and had just let go of her father as her manager. “It was me putting my stamp on my independence,” said Bey.

4. She fights for her fellow women.
“Nobody knew I was pregnant during [the Billboard] performance and I’m cool with that. I’m not interested in a free ride, but it absolutely proved to me that women have to work much harder to make it in this world. It really pisses me off that women don’t get the same opportunities as men do, or money for that matter. Because let’s face it, money gives men the power to run the show.”

5. She’s learning to be a shrewd businesswoman.
“My father taught me so much about being a businesswoman and I’m understanding him a lot now and I think I realize that business and being polite, it doesn’t match. You can be fair, but me being polite was not me being fair to myself. Now I’m learning how political things are and a lot of the crazy things he did was necessary.”

6. Jay-Z has taught her a lot about herself.
“He’s taught me so much about being an artist—not a musician, but an artist. And fighting for what I believe, and having my standards. I’m like most women, very generous and I’ll compromise, and he doesn’t compromise his art. I used to be afraid of people thinking I was difficult or too critical and I don’t really care about that anymore, as long as it’s for the right reason and I learned that from him.”

Their careers weren’t the only reason they fell in love. “We connected because we both perform and we both have similar lifestyles. But we connected on a spiritual level and he just so happened to be a musician.”

Blue Ivy’s birth made her realize how much she was in love. “This baby has made me love him more than I ever thought I could love another human being,” she said. “It’s every woman’s dream to feel this way about someone.”

The film included personal footage of them singing Coldplay’s “Yellow” together and Bey toasting her husband on his birthday.

7. She has contemplated retirement.
“Sometimes I think, should I just retire? All I need is not me because I can’t do it by myself.”

8. She was disgusted by the surrogacy rumors.
“…To think that I would be that vain. I respect mothers and women so much and to be able to experience bringing a child into this world, if you’re lucky and fortunate enough to experience that, I would never ever take that for granted. … There’s certain things that you don’t play around with. And a child, you don’t play around with that.”

9. She suffered a miscarriage prior to Blue Ivy’s birth.
A heartbroken Bey consoled herself by writing a song. “I went into the studio and wrote the saddest song I’ve ever written in my life, and it was actually the first song I wrote for my album. And it was the best form of therapy for me because it was the saddest thing I’ve ever been through.”

She played some of the song, which includes the lyrics: “You took the life right out of me/ I’m longing for your heartbeat.”

10. Motherhood has changed her outlook on life.
“My baby was born out of a conflict in my life and that struggle had to be settled,” she explained. “There’s something so relieving about life taking over you like that. You’re playing a part in a much bigger show and that’s what life is. It’s the greatest show on earth.”

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61 Comments

  1. @taimiicel

    KING B!!!!

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  2. BreezyLover

    She’s too obsessed with Jay. Wtf?! I dont think its good, but thats just my opinion…

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    Wish A Bicth Would Reply:

    @BreezyLover, That Is Her Husband,Her World,Her Everything

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    Humz Reply:

    @BreezyLover, Dunno I mean he is her husband…

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    Sandy Reply:

    @Humz, Wow. What has the quick divorce rate done to marriage and love? Beyonce SHOULD love her husband as one. It’s not like Jay is mistreating her. He obviously loves her the same. Jeez.

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    BreezyLover Reply:

    @Sandy,

    Loving is great! But she is kinda obsessed, idk.

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    Tony Reply:

    @BreezyLover,

    LMFAO, What do we expect from someone who is a Breezy lover. To them,Love = pain . It ain’t love until someone gets a black eye and ends up in the hospital.

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    SdotB Reply:

    @Tony, lmao, Co-sign 310%

    Ice Reply:

    @BreezyLover, When you marry someone you devote your life to them. People that don’t have that mindset end up cheating.

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    Bob Marley Reply:

    @BreezyLover, omg are you..are you dumb?! wtf that’s her HUSBAND someone she’s meant to adore and LOVE which she obviously does. So she should be like “Ewww there’s Jay-Z gotta stay away from my hubby.” ? I hope not because a husband is there to cherish and to hold same for a wife. Wow I can’t believe you said that…go back to loving that home boy that beat up his girlfriend because he sure as hell wasn’t obsessed with her….right? #OneLove

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    truth Reply:

    @Bob Marley, cosign! @breezy a stooopid bitch

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    Dwight Reply:

    @BreezyLover, jay is obsessed with her too, its called falling in love. their a married couple whose crazy about each other, plus they have mutual RESPECT for each other.

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  3. Janet

    I like that she’s wants to put real music out a body of work I feel her but come now this she needs to drop a song from the album we have seen everything else

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    SdotB Reply:

    @Janet, calm down, she got too much shyt goin on right now…a single will come soon…be patient lol

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  5. Big Boi

    Two Words KING-BEYONCE…. ANY QUESTIONS!!!

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  6. Bobby

    That documentary was everything and more. I love her to death. I truly do. She truly is amazing and such a great person. I feel so connected to her and think she is everything. Perfection and quite honestly the greatest by MILES over anyone else of our generation.

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  7. deelee

    I don’t know why I’m so fortunate and so blessed. I know that my mom always told me my grandmother was always in the church lighting candles praying for her. And I am a result of my grandmothers prayers. And my mother prays for me all the time and I pray for my daughter all the time. And God is real. God lives inside of me. And inside of all of us. And it doesn’t matter where I am, I know that, and I feel it. Like right now, I’m hot, you know? It’s a tingling… It’s love. I feel it when I look at my child I feel it when I look at my husband. It’s God”

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    LOLLMAO Reply:

    @deelee, TGod, thats aint God, thats the illuminati all through her body! This documentary served me up with nothing but a yawn.

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    Fatima Reply:

    @LOLLMAO, That where you are wrong, only God the Father, The Son, The Holy Spirit can give you successful career, beautiful marriage & family. the devil destroys marriages, families & lives. nothing good comes from him (read it in the bible) God is gave those thing to her for a reason. his doesn’t lie or make mistakes, so may God bless The Carters.

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    Life Reply:

    I know thats right! @Fatima,

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    kikinatrone Reply:

    @Fatima, IF you read the bible, GOd does not bless sinners. last time i checked the bible she does not bring glory to gods name at all. the way she dresses is not of a godly woman (and YOU AKK KNOW IT). the things she sings about are NOT Godly she swears, loves getting angry to pump her up and she sings about sex. i mean COME ON ARE THAT BLIND.
    just because society has noramalised this does not mean GOD has blessed this. your forgetting the devil can make things look pretty. Lucifer means prince of light.

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    SdotB Reply:

    @LOLLMAO, go take ur trolling, ignorant, insecure, desperate, attention-seeking azz somewhere else, gtfoh

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    bel ami Reply:

    @deelee, I was moved most by this quote. I was feeling love at that moment, too.

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  8. Nikki

    The critics were right it was boring and bland. Does Beyonce have a personality?? Judging by this no she does not. Everything is so calculated, what was the purpose of this. I feel like I even know less about her than I did before.

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    ME Reply:

    @Nikki, you don’t like her, so why do you wanna know more about her?! :/

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    Nikki Reply:

    @ME, Where did I say I didn’t like her? She’s a great artist, but has an incredibly bland persona.

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    LOLLMAO Reply:

    @Nikki, Persona is more bland than a saltless saltine cracker. OMG! BINGO!LOL!

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    SdotB Reply:

    @LOLLMAO, u can keep ur 2 ignorant cents to urself…u always have something negative and stupid to say…tryin so hard…just desperate…

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    LOLLMAO Reply:

    @SdotB, Go choke on a stiff one and hop off, my opinion is my opinion! This braud aint been anything special since the 90′s. I don’t idolize celebs and have the right to say what I want for entertainment purposes K! LOL

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    SdotB Reply:

    @Nikki, how is she boring and bland? She is the BIGGEST ENTERTAINER IN THE WORLD…she spends her life working HARD, being a WIFE, being a MOTHER…being a SUCCESSFUL BUSINESS WOMAN…as you tell by the documentary she is VERY HAPPY…travelling the world with her loved ones, as you can tell she has a great sense of humor (which can be very difficult for an artist of her caliber who faces negativity on daily basis)…I didn’t even know she curses, I thought that was actually cute, when every time she made a mistake in the booth, she said “Shyt” and laughed it off…

    Just b/c she’s not actin like some of these younger artists, smoking ganja, being in the headlines every second for foolishness, being naked on every cover, drinking her mind out, being out in the clubs every night, being gimmicky, wearing different colored wigs, dressing up like a clown, acting like a different person every day with different personalities and different accents, doesn’t make her boring and bland…she is a HUMAN!! She is like any other 31 year old, mature, respectful and responsible mother, wife, and business woman…look at the position she is in, she is BEYONCE, she has to watch every little thing she does to make sure she’s a good role model and that she maintains a good reputation…what else do you expect from her?

    You people act like you have it all, when really you probably are the boring, bland ones…b/c all you do is spend all your time sitting behind a keyboard criticizing and insulting successful artists who have everything you want. So you find any flaw or negative thing about them to take away from their character…maybe you should re-watch the documentary a few more times and you’ll get a little bit more out of how “Un-boring” and “Un-bland” she really is…smmfh

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    Andy Reply:

    @SdotB, didn’t you noticed that you criticized other artists with that comment? The donkey talking about ears, hypocrite.

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    kikinatrone Reply:

    @Andy, excellent they should be ashamed they are behaving like that, and you know it.

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    ! Reply:

    @SdotB, #THIS … You took the words out of my mouth. Thank you.

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  9. mal

    LOVE THIS WOMAN

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  10. OhWORD?

    This definitely gave me a new perspective on Beyonce in good way!

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    OhWORD? Reply:

    @OhWORD?, I have to admit, after seeing, no experiencing this, Beyonce is pretty impressive if i may say so myself! Maybe i was wrong about her! So this is what her fans and stans sees! I guess i’m a fan once more. Once a fan always a fan i guess no matter the turns in life! I cannot be a stan because that leads to idolising and the only being that i idolise is God but a fan i am! I’m still a Rihanna fan as well (for those who thought otherwise) but I have to give it do Beyonce, this was gainfully inspirational! Much thanks given to Beyonce for opening up, extending an invitation into her private life/thoughts and being relatable!

    Excited to hear her story in her new album! #StartOver #iCare;)

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  11. Ssali-UGANDA

    Whoever put this video here,THANK YOU SO MUCH! Coz without this site I wouldn’t be able to watch it anywhere.

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    kikinatrone Reply:

    @Ssali-UGANDA, i know thanx!!

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  12. patricia

    Ela estava maravilhosa, como sempre!

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  13. Jay-Me

    Just sat down & watched Life Is But A Dream. Man, all I feel for Beyoncé, life and this whole thing is inspiration. That feeling when you have so many words that you just have none. I just simply love her. This was a brave and unique step. It’s inspiring to artist and people alike. I feel like I know her. Thanks Rap-Up for posting this on her.

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  14. Ursula

    It was better than I thought it was going to be and Blue Ivy is so cute!!

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  15. KaykaylovesBeyonce&Nicki

    I love this woman so much

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  16. LOLLMAO

    The lady is more bland then grits wit no butta, saltine crackers with no salt, sugar free peppermint. Tea with no honey just blan and bloand all the time except on the stage I give it to King Bey there but nothing amuses me, nor is her charm ever natural!

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    LOLLMAO Reply:

    @LOLLMAO, *Bland, sorry for the spelling errors but I had to let my opinion out quickly. Beyawnce equals Bland and rehearsed!

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  17. british proune uk 2013

    what a wonderful documentary of her. One thing that some people may not know is that Beyonce had said it herself that she was a jay-z groupie @ the time when she was w/ Destiny’s Child Group before going solo as a Artist Another thing is that Jay-z did dated the Late R&B singer Aaliyah haughton way back in 99 before he dated Beyonce carter yes it’s True

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    SdotB Reply:

    @british proune uk 2013, no he didn’t, where do u get ur “false facts” from?…Aaliyah was dating DAMON DASH, who was very good friends and business partners with Jay-Z…

    and that comment was so irrelevant to this post…smh

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  19. Amy

    I find her sooo inspiring. Not about her personal life, I have no interest in that, but her work ethic and attitude to her career. Shes so dedicated and focused. I find it so motivational. When I am in a difficult situation at work, I will always ask ‘What would Beyonce do?’
    Hail Queen B :D

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  20. D.

    The link is dead! :(

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    kikinatrone Reply:

    @D., still working, stops and starts at the beginning but flows well till the end.

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  21. kikinatrone

    not the best documentary, but it was entertaining. a few questions answered, and a few raised. all in all good.

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  22. .

    This woman is an icon. #Period

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  23. 2013

    Once again I fell in love with her. #Inspiring

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  24. lilkunta

    The doc wasnt great. The critics were right. Beyonce should have shown the footage in order and why did we have to see full performances that we have ALREADY seen. Beyonce still didnt adress clearly and completely if she was pregnant with Blue. No clear footage of her body to show she was pregnant. She did that grainy black and white footage. Beyonce admitted she follows the press–both good and bad– so she is aware of all the rumours. Why didnt she put them to rest.

    I also think it was Bs when she said ‘jay and i connect on a spiritual level’ He curses, sings about materialism, fvcking bitch*s, hoes, guns, drugs…so what is their spiritual level ?

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    Amy Reply:

    @lilkunta, I don’t understand why she should, just because she’s famous means she has to show her pregnant body to the world?? I believe she had that baby naturally. I don’t get why she would lie or make it up. There are many celebrities who we don’t see pregnant, but the media doesn’t make up stories of fake pregnancies about them – I just don’t get it, especially as she had a miscarriage. I presume it’s because of that Australian interview that the fabric of that dress which folded over her abdomen, which I believe is the type of fabric, nothing to do with what’s underneath. Have you seen the follow up video from that news station, which has proved she was pregnant, as they show different angled videos of that interview.
    I have no interest in her personal life and I find it so strange that people speculate about something which isn’t any of their business. I’m not having a go, this is just my opinion. I watched this video as I find her work ethic incredible and it gives me drive and focus for my own career (which is the complete opposite to Beyonce’s). I love her ambition, I find it amazing.

    With relationships – No-one ever knows what goes on behind closed doors

    x

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    lilkunta Reply:

    @Amy, To stop the unneccesary press and let the press be about sh*t that matters: her MUSIC! No, being famous doesnt mean she has to show her body. In fact Im glad she didnt do a belly pic like britney, jessica, mariah, etc. However how come there was no speculation of Mariah, Jessica, Alicia, etc being pregnant. They said they were and we believed it. At times BK looked pregnant other times she didnt. The stomach folding in Australia is one instance.I did see the followup video and it didnt proove anything IMO. Another instance is when there was padding showing wheen she screened/premiered the ‘live at roseland ballroom’ dvd. From what I read it was her moonbump showing. I dont know why BK would lie. I hope it isnt bc she was afraid to ruin her body. Maybe after the first miscarriage something happened and she cant carry a baby to term? Beyonce has history of lying from her DC days with claiming she wrote their songs(kandi burruss, shakespeare,ne-yo, bc jean, and others did) to claimning she thought up video treatments to claiming she thought up choreography. She professes her Christian faith but lies alot. I thought the doc didnt share new info(except Blue’s face) and she really was trying to seem down to earth and profund and she failed.

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    Amy Reply:

    @lilkunta, Fair points made. I agree that she seem desperate to seem normal and down to earth, which of course she failed because she is not. I get that she feels the same emotions as us, but she is not one of us :)

    I think that even if she did release a clear picture of her pregnant body or even a birthing video, there will be people out there who would argue that it was photoshopped or the video had special effects. I think she won’t win this argument with the general public. Like you said, people feel shes lied too much and therefore will not trust her with what ever she does. So I think that as long as her (Beyonces) support group and fans believe her, then she has nothing too prove to anyone else.

    I know her name is on the writing credits for most of her songs, but I do wonder how much does she actually contribute. I do find it funny that with the girls video, she had to fly men out from another country to teach the women the choreography. Very ironic.

    I do still love her as an entertainer and I will try to get tickets to her world tour. Like I’ve said, I think her drive and focus is amazing, and there is no doubt she does work very hard at what she does, which I truly admire.

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    Writer Reply:

    @lilkunta,

    This is ridiculous. Have you truly watched the WHOLE documentary? Right before her “love on top” performance, she films her clearly round belly. What more do you need? Seriously. If that’s not enough proof to you, then nothing will ever be.

    “Beyonce still didnt adress clearly and completely if she was pregnant with Blue.”

    She did. What was the whole “I can’t believe that people think I’m that vain (…) I respect women and mothers (…) I wouldn’t miss the occasion to give life” and her calling the surrogate mom rumors “ridiculous” and such? What more clarity do you need?

    “I also think it was Bs when she said ‘jay and i connect on a spiritual level’ He curses, sings about materialism, fvcking bitch*s, hoes, guns, drugs…so what is their spiritual level?”

    So you can know everything about a person based on their music? THAT is BS. It’s ridiculous how quickly you make conclusions when you lack the needed information to make them. The truth is that you don’t know them personally, and so you can’t make an informed judgement.

    You talk about Beyonce lying, but how do you know she lies when she talks about writing her songs and thinking up choreography? Just because the media says she does doesn’t mean she does. As long as you won’t have talked to her personally about it or/and that she won’t have confirmed the rumors, I don’t see how you can claim to know for sure that what people say about her is true or not.

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  25. mful

    everyone, don’t be deceived. You don’t need to understand her marriage, you don’t need to understand her songwriting, her baby details, you just need to understand the reason she does what she does, and what she does it for…yes, she is entertaining, and millions worship her and her music….but,seriously there is a gruesome and wicked force that is reaching all of you through Beyonce, please open your eyes and minds and watch:

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  26. dido

    lets all be human about this we are a civilized race beyonce is an amazing artist her privacy should be respected and the privacy of her family also lets all get a life

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